Did you experience having a conversation like the other person was living on the other planet? Like he doesn't seem to understand or care about what you're trying to point out.
It's like you're speaking on an automated answering machine. If you gonna do a negotiation or making a deal using a phone. Better do it personally or else you gonna be wasting your time talking.
Communication is one vital thing in everyday living. It always has big impact in family, relationship or in every kind of industry where you work.
The other person trying to persuade you and you just wanted to ask question for a moment. The other person just keeps on and on without building any rapport or even wanted to really understand what you're trying to say.
It was like when you try to emphasize what you trying to say; The other person was missing the point of your thoughts because he thinks that what he's about to say is more important than what he's about to hear from you.
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Most relationship had lots of argument because the other person listen to respond and not to understand. I got to much mistake doing this thing again and again but as you become aware of your responses, you get to become wise and avoid those misunderstanding.
Sometimes you need to know when not to speak and just be quiet and listen calmly. Even you didn't speak too much you realize it was a good decision.
Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverb 17:28
To get to know what the person talking about, better yet hear everything what he says and carefully assess his tone and the spirit behind the words. You can save good relationship doing this. Sometimes you don't need to do anything about it but just listen.
A person may want to see you if she ask you if you have something to do in a particular day.
A person may need help if he elaborated his critical situation.
A person maybe suffering from painful experience by hearing his sentiments.
A person might be missing you if she ask a simple -how are you?
The chosen words will always has motivational cause on why it was said.
I was back then not sensitive to person feelings and ending up not connecting. made a lot of misunderstanding.
You don't have to go with this way and you can always be a better connector and communicator.
If you want to connect with the person talking, You need to forget about yourself and start focusing on the person speaking.
Yet again if someones trying to reach you, better yet listen with straight eyes, sharp ear and open heart.
You might watch a 3 minutes video interview by Oprah with Thich Nhat Hanh, he is a Zen Buddhist Monk. Understand and learn to apply how to do deep listening.
Get his book here at amazon.com
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